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Relationships are durable when dialogue is always called upon. Relationships should not live by bread (sex) alone, but by the words that come out of each partners' mouth. It has a psychic power of bringing people very close together. Talking about the kind of life a partner wants to lead, whispering into each others ears, encouraging each other when personal life encounters a glitch, being there for a partner and presenting oneself as a solid rock of comfort and making a partner feel he/she cannot get positive and genuine comfort from anyone except from them. They should lay their hearts bare and lead each other to their private lives. People tend to stick with you when you tell them the truth about yourself and about themselves. There cannot be any dull moments in the lives of partners if they make dialogue a stepping stone in their relationship. Refrain from telling a partner what he/she is not just to impress or make them happy; this is uncultured flattery and in most cases backfires leaving the partner feeling as though they are being played for a sucker.
Intimacy, passion, excitement and adventure cannot and should not be overlooked if the partners want to stay together. Partners have to be romantic with each other, caress and make each other feel ecstatic. Not just an acidulous dose of sex, but a passionate and head spinning affection of closeness and intimate sharing of love. A candlelight dinner once in a while, a short walk on the beach or in a greenish garden where only the chipping of birds could be heard besides the pounding of their hearts, a picnic in a romantic and remote place with great landscape are all thing that can do great magic. A psychic book I once read said that the mind takes in such scenarios and magnets it because only nature was the third party and because nature is everywhere the feeling is remembered.
Romantic gifts are also great in keeping a relationship. Both genders have to give. The uncivilized thinking of some people is that only the male should shower their female partners with gifts. Gifts should be reciprocated. Each time a partner picks up a gift he/she has received from a lover, the mind always flashes back to the giver and a smile. The partner has to remember at least one goodtime they had had or else the relationship is under threat of crashing and is thereby opening a door for ‘infidelity’ to infiltrate. What good is it sticking with someone whom a partner cannot daydream about or even remember one little gesture of generosity about them?
Ex-lovers, what about them? They could come creeping in with the ulterior motive of getting an erstwhile lover back or in most cases, have one final “make out” with them. What would an ex-lover possibly want that they had not tasted in the past, when they already decided that the person was not good enough to be theirs? They parted because they were not satisfied with the relationship or because they were rejected by the lover involved. What matters here is total resistance and an adamant resolution not to fall prey to a tempting intruder. Avoidance is one tactic that would work like a charm. Staying away from the encroaching ex-lover and seeing less of them would put a big ditch between the two parties involved and as time passes the feeling of obsession and loss they have would gradually die off.
In conclusion, love is the ultimate in any relationship. Love changes everything. It may not change who the partners are, but it sure makes the differences between them less important. Love endures, love perseveres, love withstands torture, love passes the test of time and love overshadows all other negative emotions. There has to be genuine love shared by partners. Love should and must be immeasurable with both partner knowing no doubt, nor too shy to act. Love is the foundation of an everlasting relationship not lust, not a crush - love. Love does not hibernate, it remains forever strong. The partners have to love each other greatly and there will be no room for ‘infidelity’.
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kevin M
I am a Nigerian and an avid reader who also take great pleasure in putting pen on paper. I believe that with the right expression of words written with my pen people could change for the better and correct or curb some ills eating deep into our system of government or life in general. Poverty and corruption have always been Africa's most dreaded diseases and Nigeria is no exception. I write fiction and non-fiction and also write articles on any subject, especially that concerning the well-being of the poor masses. I wish to be an acclaimed writer and author and a motivational speaker
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