Hello,
As sex is not love, love not sex. Money is not love, love is not money.
Ones children are bound to pick up the same attitude from the parents, the parents’ friends or the neighbours.
Parents that always fight are bound to have children who would be fighting their couples once their older.
But we come to love, not only our neighbours, but also those we meet on our way. And when the love concerns a man and a woman establishing a relationship may it be physical, distant relationship or otherwise; materialism should not be an issue or sex being a priority of that relationship, but the emotional dividends that accrue from love.
When we are upset, we want the cooperation of our loved ones. Our parents or siblings are not included! And, that is why people say money is not everything!
Assuming that a guy or a lady fell in love because of material thing s/he scan be given, what will happen to the love when the material things are gone.
This is why the word ‘consistent’ only exist in Dictionaries in recent times. People no longer exercise patience with loved ones. Before one could say Jackie Robinson they are off the track.
This is why there are divvies in many homes today. And many homes that are not divided do not enjoy peace, happiness and joy they ought to be in a home. They harbour fracas!
Because, in recent times it is a rare thing to see people falling in love because of ‘Value’ that was stocked in each other but because of financial muscle each could be. Be s/he a criminal, leper, having spiritual pedigree and all that, what many people care for is the money.
Lately, many ladies do not care for the men who love them truly without money, but the men that load them with material things. Money, paramount! This vision is bizarre.
When I said that in love a fool and a wise attitude is not questionable, I meant that because of ‘brain chemistry’, which love affects, the two kinds of people behave the same. That implies that in a normal circumstance, a girl cannot slap a man and go free. But in love, the slapped-man might tolerate it for the betterment of love. Is he not a fool somehow?
But something must compel one before s/he would say I am in love. (Everyone has untapped kind of love in him/er). Such compelling factors could be ones handsome, beauty, approach, vision, talent, charisma and so on. It must not necessarily be money or sex, for they are secondary in a true love!
Some men use money to get ladies, because money is the only language many ladies hear. And the man having exploited the laughing part of the lady, the proclaimed love would vanish. The man will not be there again for her. That is why some ladies or many ladies begin to complain that he said he loves me but is now the first to walkout on me. She might even start visiting Juju house or prophets to win the spirit of the man back. Such relationship does not work because it was not established on a natural landscape. Again, many ladies use pregnancy to trap their guys to marry them. The world is going gaga!
A lot of ladies relegate men who are decent to the background when they make known their feelings to women. Honest men hardly get the attention of many women because their orientation is not built on deceit; they do not boast of owning ‘fictitious’ mansions from America to Africa, from Arab to Asia and also working in 5 Star Company, which is also what many ladies would want to hear.
Most ladies do not take a guy seriously when the guy walks up to them and say, I love you, but I am a pauper working to be popular. Ladies do not subscribe to that idea, and sometimes I ask, what is love? Does it mean that love and peace are dead? Does it mean that love is just a mere assumption?
However, love cannot be replaced by hatred no matter the different meaning people give to love. People think that using the phrase, ‘s/he cares and loves me’ are only limited to sharing money or making love. No.
Sending text message, asking one, how are you, sending an email, and a little ‘hi’ helps a lot. Just as I had nothing than love to give, but you are yet to receive it from me.
Copyright 2007 Odimegwu Onwumere
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