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Well, I know the interviewer 's purpose of asking this question is to know how I react and deal with relationship with people and how I solve problems." I did have conflicts with my colleagues and supervisor in my previous jobs. But I really think I am a people person because I concern about people and my friends like me. Now I am pondering if it is contradictory that a people person has conflicts with people. If it's normal that a people person may have conflicts with people, how does s/he react and deal with the conflicts? These are the questions for you to think if you are reading this blog and I am looking forward to hearing your ideas/opinions. I need your help to grow and let us grow together!]]> Sun, 12 Aug 2007 19:53:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/241399 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/239487
What did I do in last 3 years?

I have been working as teacher of Chinese until Feburary 2007. I lived a very simple life--going to work and back home. It was fun to some extent. I had a lot of opportunities to meet and talk to people from all over the world, get to know their culture and make friends with them. It was boring to some extent. Except for teaching, I didn't have opportunities to discover and develop other skills. I knew that wouldn't be my whole-life career. I knew there must be something else I could do and love to devote myself. Changing job or not was just a matter of time. I wasn't ready for the change emotionally though I was ready mentally.

During the time of staying at that job, I experienced an emotional turbulance and the biggest frustration in relationship. I was pursued by my student and later fell in love to him. I hoped to build a positive relationship with him and our relationship could grow to the point of marriage. However, later I found I was too naiive. He had difficulty in focusing on one woman and in making commitment to an exclusive relationship. That was completely not what I expected. Maybe I should not have had any expectations out of a relationship, so I wouldn't have been disappointed so much.

This frustrating relationship broke my dream of perfect relationship in my heart and had me question if there would be someone right for me in my life. My friends all said I am a nice woman and I deserve a nice man who really knows how to love a woman. But where is he? That's the question I've been asking for millions of times. I met a couple of men later and questioned at my heart, "Is he the right person for me?" After meeting a few times, we lost contact. The answer revealed itself. Frustrated!

However, I learnt to be patient with my life and myself. I don't look for relationship and I don't look for the answer to that question that I've been asking for millions of times. I told myself if there is someone for me, he will show up eventually in me life no matter where he is and will never leave me alone. He will be the answer to my question. If there is no one for me, don't be sad. There are a lot of things worth enjoying in life. Go to find something to do to make yourself happy. Therefore, I developed my interests. I learnt to play Chinese instrument, I learnt to make brownies and cookies and I tried to hang out more with friends. And finally, I felt I was ready to change my job.

I started my temporary job at the US Embassy. It was the happies work experience in my life. I was busy with work. I had opportunities to do a lot of different tasks. I had opportunities to work with English every day. I had a very friendly and supportive supervisor. I loved working there very much. Now my job there ended. I am looking for employment. I hope I can go back to work some day or I can find another job which I love and would like to devote myself.

I worked in the Embassy only for 5 months, but I met Dave. We didn't have any chance to hang out when he was in Beijing and we even didn't meet each other very often when we both worked in the Embassy. Now he is far, far from me, but we are keeping in touch. He is making efforts to build up a positive relationship with me. So do I with him. Both of us know there will be many possibilities, but both of us would like to give it a try. He asked me to keep a positive thinking, and I want to say to him, "I am trying, Dave."]]> Mon, 06 Aug 2007 00:03:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/239487 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/18949
I love to keep my thoughts down actually, but sometimes I just felt it helpless to write.It won't change anything...Perhaps I'm destined to pursue my dream all my life but get no way to make it come true...
]]> Sun, 22 Aug 2004 07:24:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/18949 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/12559 Thu, 04 Dec 2003 10:52:00 EST http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/12559 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/10362 When seeing someone else is entangled by and is striving for survival against those puzzles of life, you are sober and know clearly how to get extricated out of those snarls. However, when being ensnarled in the same situation you may be the very first who gets lost and bewildered by those perplexities of your life. ¡°Where¡¯s my last straw?¡± you may wonder. Sorry, I do not know¡ªlike you, I am searching for my last straw in vain¡­]]> Wed, 06 Aug 2003 23:34:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/10362 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/10173 We can talk about love in many different perspectives. I¡¯d like to post my thought about platonic love and sexual love here which has been brooded in my mind for long for people who happen to read this to develop a discussion.

No wonder that sexual love universally exists among all the creatures in the world, with which new generations are produced and the world are fraught with vitality. To me, human are the most advanced creatures in physicalness compared with all other creatures, but are not in spiritualness, because we have physical desire for love¡ªwe long for sexual pleasure, which I regard as animal-like behavior. Well, yeah, human in itself are animals no matter how advanced we are¡ªwe have the basically physical need for love to sustain our life.

I worship spirituality and have been regarding platonic love is sacred far beyond sexual love. If there¡¯s some day that human, with perfect physical features, could move up a notch and transcend physical desire for love to get perfect in spirituality as well, then platonic love would take place of sexual love and dominate the universe? This is a question I¡¯ve been pondering and hoping to get answer.

Also, if sexual love and platonic love are both what we need, shall we enjoy them at the same time? Then, what does fidelity or faithfulness mean? Does it require us to be totally faithful to only one partner both spiritually and sexually? Or be faithful respectively to two partners¡ªone we love sexually and the other spiritually? Or we just act all of this up to our own understanding?

Some questions are unanswerable and some confusion is unexplainable. But there should be possibility to give it some discussion which may help to disperse my bafflement about life.

]]> Fri, 25 Jul 2003 06:22:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/10173 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/10024 I translated some English articles recently and have respectively contributed a couple of pieces of my translation to three magazines after several times of rectification and edition, hoping to be a published translator. The articles that attract me are not only written in beautiful English but are all characterized with enlightenment and are able to touch my heart in some way, for instance, some article tells us to re-balance our life and to achieve what is really important to us, some encourages us to embrace life with hope, some suggests us to give empathy by being a good listener and so forth.

No matter in what language those articles are produced, the wisdom they carry is boundless and can be shared by people everywhere. I love to share those good English writings I read with other people and let them be the beneficiary as I am and translation is the best way I could think of to fulfill this. Although what I am doing is only a small drip of water in the sea but I hope that could help to narrow cultural gap between nations and seed people with a belief that people everywhere are sharing those same wisdoms in a unique way.
]]> Thu, 17 Jul 2003 11:01:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/10024 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9579 Having met with J and idolizing him as my Mr. Right is something like looking for that man not particularly for me by knocking at the wrong door. No one should be blamed for the fact and I shouldn¡¯t be frustrated by the fact which I am not able to change at all but to learn to accept. It would be wise for me to recollect my courage to seek my right man and be ready to enjoy any love shines on me. Also, it is forgivable that even Cupid sometimes got wrong target to shoot an arrow. Even though I got wrong person to have fallen in love with, I should thank God for having me come across with J, for after all he lightens my life in some way.]]> Mon, 23 Jun 2003 05:11:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9579 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9578 I love poetry and love writing poems. I've written several in Chinese but never in English. Honestly, I never learnt how to write a poem in English but I would like to think this one as a poem produced in English for the first time.

I Wish

I wish
To be born as a bird,
In my next lifetime instead
Of being human,
So that I could,
Stretch my wings to fly,
To kiss the sky,
To play with the clouds and
To dance with the wind.

And I wish
There would be a hunter,
Aiming at me with a shooter,
To end up my life by
Shooting me down from the sky!
]]> Mon, 23 Jun 2003 05:06:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9578 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9506 I always feel that I am so lucky to be introduced to TIG and have joined this community where I can express myself,voice my thoughts and feelings and have them read.Those comments about my updates are really helpful to me which broaden my horizen and provide me with fresh perspectives of looking at the world.]]> Tue, 17 Jun 2003 10:16:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9506 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9505 Tue, 17 Jun 2003 10:07:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9505 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9383
I think there are some reasons that lead to the end of these relationships.One is that they may not be able to share the same point of view on a particular matter and both of them may intend to,without conscious awareness,impose his/her opinion upon the other one and are not ready to share or appreciate different point of views.The other is that as time goes by,they gradually are not willing to engage some activities together because of lack of interest,and they may find they are unable to put up with some way of life of their partner.And the third one is that they find their expectations that they posed on each other cannot be filfulled,which casts estrangement on their feelings about each other and finally lead to breaking up.

All this makes me doubt that if there is,except kinship,a steady relationship in the world.It seems that we can fall in love with someone,we can marry with someone and we can establish a friendship with someone,but at same time we've got to prepare ourselves in advance to accept the fact calmly that these relationships might crash some time for some reason in the future,thus we would not feel so upset or regrettable.

Yeah,it's true that for some relationship it is better to end it up early when the "crisis" arises rather than keep it until it becomes emotional burden to torture each other.Well...but neverthless I wish people could try their best to maintain a longlasting relationship with their lover,their spouse,their friend or whoever with whom they decide to establish a relationship by providing more understanding and appreciation to each other.

]]> Mon, 09 Jun 2003 10:39:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9383 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9344
I care my salary.I'm in need of money to pay for my post graduate class for people at work.It'll cost me about 20,000 RMB.It is not an astronomical amount of money of course,yet it is still a BIG amount to me.Honestly,I feel less passion for what I'm doing at work--no use of English,the language that I love and have been studying for years.However I can't give it up recklessly as I did because of the difficulty of hunting jobs during the epidemic period of SARS.Besides,it does provide me with time to do self-study and that is why I "pinned" myself on this job,on which I projected my hope of the investment of my further education.Being told that I would be paid as much as I was in probation,I felt disappointed,deceived and that the gap between my dream and the reality was farther widened abruptly though I've been learning to make peace with the gap.

Uncertainty...I wonder if everyone has some uncertainties in his/her life.What does s/he feel or do when faced with uncertainties?...

]]> Fri, 06 Jun 2003 01:13:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9344 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9152
Interestingly,as I am reading books about intraculture and cross-culture,I appreciate this TV show from cultural perspective...(unfinished)]]> Mon, 26 May 2003 00:52:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9152 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9140
During this hard time people¡¯s lifestyle seemed to have changed.People who are always on the go now find more time to stay home and enjoy reunite with their familly members. ¡°Coach potatoes¡± now spend more time doing exercises to strengthen their physical well-being.Many people adjust their eating habit to eat more healty food and less junk food¡­SARS seems to have rung the bell to warn people to develop their ability to survive.

Students also benefit from this hard time.As classes suspend,students have to stay home or school and do self-study.In the past,most of the students learn by relying on their teachers.They only learn what their teachers teach and never know how to study by themselves.This hard time forces them to develop an ability to study by themselves in order not to lag behind their fellow students.They attend lectures via Internet and ask for help from their teachers via telephone.To me one of the most important abilities students need to develop during their schooling is self-study ability,which will be benefit to them life long.Now some schools have resumed classes,I believe students will learn much more than they used to with their new developed ability.

SARS caused many lives,and we mourn for them,yet it also left us many things worth seriously thinking.]]> Sun, 25 May 2003 10:03:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9140 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9126
Most of the passengers keep silent on the bus.Some look out of the window,lost in thought,some take a nap and some read newspapers or books.Occasionally,some passengers talk in a low voice in order not to disturbe others.It is a joyful journey on the whole.

However,there're some exceptions sometimes.Some passengers talk and laugh aloud,totally sinking in their own enjoyment and inconsiderate about people around.Some kill their time by picking their nose.Oh my!It's disgusting to me though I know it's none of my business.But I'm sure it's not a decent manner in the public situation.

Also on the bus I tend to pay attention to the shoes people wear.Some people's shoes are rather dirty,which indicates s/he is an untidy and slovenly person.It is always said that "to judge whether a person is neat or not,you've got to look at his/her shoes--tidy person wears shiny shoes while sluggish person dirty shoes."

This update may seem sort of illogical.Anyway,I wish people will pay attention to their behavior and appearance when in public.

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About this I wrote yesterday that if I had to ¡°sleep with it¡± in order to learn a language well I would choose English to ¡°sleep¡± with. And I also wrote that I was not the kind of person who would make use of anyone as a tool to learn his language. Instead I would first love someone as a person and then love his language and wished to be first loved as person too and then my language would be love.

Later I thought more about what I¡¯ve written.It seems that it is more common that a person usually loves and learns a language other than his/her mother language first and then fall in love with someone who is a native speaker of that language s/he is learning no matter whether the love is a coincidence or an intention. Language is an indispensable part of culture. To love a non-native language could be said to love the culture that language belongs to as well. The love that someone has for a non-native language and the culture it belongs to may, to some extent, strengthen the love that s/he has for the person whom s/he loves and who was born in that culture and to speak that language. For two persons coming from two different cultural backgrounds and speak two different languages, is it possible for them to build solid and everlasting love based on tepid interest in each other¡¯s language and culture? I would say without love for each other¡¯s language and culture their love would likely experience more risk of shattering.

Well, this may kind of contradict to what I wrote in the first paragraph. Anyway, I¡¯ve learnt English and the culture where it is spoken for years and have already thought that I¡¯ve married to English emotionally. Will I some day get married with someone from this culture and speak this beautiful language? Who knows?¡­
]]> Sun, 18 May 2003 10:27:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9038 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9035
One X (title)

death is more than
certain a hundred these
sounds crowds odours it
is in a hurry
beyond that any this
taxi smile or angle we do

not sell and buy
things so necessary as
is death and unlike shirts
neckties trousers
we cannot wear it out¡­
]]> Sun, 18 May 2003 07:25:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9035 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9000
Gradually I've come to realize one thing, that is to read what my friends write(of course I refer to those who like writing)is one of the best ways to know them,and I prefer my writings to be read by my friends,my close friends,thus they may know me better than they think they do.

Friends do not always like to listen to you.To me, writing seems to be the best way to speak my mind,to express my inner most thoughts and feelings and is the best way that I converse with MYSELF.When I am forgotten and left alone, at least there's still someone with whom I can communicate.]]> Fri, 16 May 2003 01:21:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/9000 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/8910 English is my husband,
And French is my lover.]]> Fri, 09 May 2003 07:47:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/8910 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/8823 Fri, 02 May 2003 07:32:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/8823 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/8637
"Are you afraid of SARS and concomitant death?"

Shen:"I don't want to die alone.Think if I would unfortunately be infected with SARS I would be forced to isolate with my parents, my relatives and my friends and would be confined in the hospital.No one would come to talk to me or even to see me there even though they might want to.I don't want that.What about you?Are you afraid of SARS and death?"

"No,honestly I don't.Sometimes I wish I could be that lucky to be kissed by SARS and let it take my life away with tremendous generosity and gratitude,thus I would totally release from all worries,unhappiness and disappointment and give up all desires and expectations in my life and enjoy a state of nirvana."

Shen:"Don't you think it selfish and irresponsible to have this in mind?"

"No.I don't think so.I would blame myself for my selfishness and irresponsibility if I initially commit suicide to satisfy my desire for personal release.No matter what I didn't and don't.The fact is that SARS may find me and the god of death may come to my door at any time now,which is just what I am longing and waiting for,thus I could die and wouldn't be blamed for so-called selfishness and irresponsibility.Well, you may regard what I said as an excuse for myself."

Silence...]]> Mon, 21 Apr 2003 00:19:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/8637 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/8594 Today is cloudy.
Today there is no mail from Jim.
And today this is not a poem.]]> Wed, 16 Apr 2003 23:13:00 EDT http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/8594 39.9288889 116.388333339.9288889116.3883333 http://frindependence.tigblog.org/post/8558 ÎÒÊ°ÆðһƬ»¨°ê
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