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Author of my personality:

Pleased, I hope, with what you read in me;

Pleased, I hope, with episodes to come.

Yet now I, too, would get some pleasure from

Making you the book in which I see,

Of all the players in my family,

The central character, whom I would plumb.

How beautiful to move in that direction!

Each to each a separate source of pleasure,

Reading in the other’s happiness,

‘Mid much description, underlying love.

So would we deepen the connection,

Discovering new passages to treasure

As we follow time towards tenderness,

Yearning for what years unread will prove.
]]> Sat, 09 May 2009 08:08:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/661597 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/661573
A credit crunch is often caused by a sustained period of careless and inappropriate lending which results in losses for lending institutions and investors in debt when the loans turn sour and the full extent of bad debts becomes known.These institutions may then reduce the availability of credit, and increase the cost of accessing credit by raising interest rates. In some cases lenders may be unable to lend further, even if they wish, as a result of earlier losses.

The crunch is generally caused by a reduction in the market prices of previously "overinflated" assets and refers to the financial crisis that results from the price collapse.[6] This can result in widespread foreclosure or bankruptcy for those investors and entrepeneurs who came in late to the market, as the prices of previously inflated assets generally drop precipitously. In contrast, a liquidity crisis is triggered when an otherwise sound business finds itself temporarily incapable of accessing the bridge finance it needs to expand its business or smooth its cash flow payments. In this case, accessing additional credit lines and "trading through" the crisis can allow the business to navigate its way through the problem and ensure its continued solvency and viability. It is often difficult to know, in the midst of a crisis, whether distressed businesses are experiencing a crisis of solvency or a temporary liquidity crisis.

]]> Sat, 09 May 2009 07:05:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/661573 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/525635
Curled up on his or her side.
Going fetal is the most common sleep position, with 41 percent of people (and twice as many women as men) reporting this as their preference. These snoozers may seem tough on the surface, but they’re actually sensitive and shy, so keep that in mind if you want to crack a joke in the a.m. about your sweetie’s morning breath.

Sideways and straight as a log.
Fifteen percent of people lie on their sides with their arms at their sides. These space-conserving sorts tend to be extremely trusting and gregarious, so if you’re seeing someone like this, you’ll continue to go on plenty of group dates, dinner parties, and outings that will allow this social butterfly to spread his or her wings.

Sideways with arms outstretched.
Warning: The 13 percent of folks who slumber with their arms reaching in front of them are cynical and slow to make decisions. But while they may dodge the “Are we exclusive?” question longer than usual, once they do commit, you can be sure they’re sure.

On his or her back, arms at sides.
This pose, common amongst eight percent of respondents, means your sweetie’s reserved and has very high standards. You’re with someone who’ll treat this relationship with the respect and attention it deserves.

On his or her stomach.
Seven percent of people sleep on their stomachs with their hands around the pillow and their heads to the side—and the research says these folks are pure party animals. If that’s your thing, well, party on!

On his or her back, arms overhead.
This rarest of sleep position--only five percent of the population sleep this way--also boasts a very rare quality: These folks are good listeners. So whether you’ve mentioned you only drink decaf or love waking up to Puccini, don’t be surprised if your wish comes true come morning. ]]> Thu, 13 Nov 2008 00:43:00 EST http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/525635 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/516845
The following tips come from the new Family Life resource, Simply Romantic Tips to Romance Your Husband. One free tip before you start—print out this page and keep it somewhere handy for fresh and creative ways of fanning the flames of romance in your marriage.

1. Write him/her a check for one hundred kisses. Be available to cash the check for him/her when and where he/she likes.

2. The next time you're out to dinner, casually take out a pen and write a note to him/her on a paper napkin—letting him/her know what he/she can look forward to at home. Fold it and slide it across the table.

3. As he/she heads out for work, give him/her a passionate kiss. If he/she wants to know what it was for, tell him/her it's the appetizer for tonight's menu.

4. Pamper his/her tootsies with a relaxing foot massage. All you need is a warm basin of water, some soap, a towel, and some lotion.

5. Get up a few minutes earlier than usual, brush your teeth, then get back in bed and wake him/her up with a kiss.

6. Refrain from saying "I told you so." That might be the best gift of all.

7. Handwrite his/her favorite Bible verse on parchment. After laminating it, surprise him/her by tucking it into his Bible.

8. Have your guy/gal write down on slips of paper his/her five favorite things to do. Fold them and place them in a bowl. Let him/her draw one out and read it—then do it together.

9. Blindfold your husband/wife and "kidnap" him/her. Take him/her to a hotel room where you have prepared a romantic tryst.

10. Men view romance differently than women. Ask your husband to describe what's romantic to him. Don't be surprised when his ideas sound very different from yours.

]]> Tue, 04 Nov 2008 02:26:00 EST http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/516845 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/484611
The First Dance. There is a traditional sequence of pairing up couples at a wedding dance that you may want to observe. You have other ideas, of course. You can modify the follow description of the traditional sequence to fit your unique situation.
The first couple on the floor, of course, will be the Bride and Groom.

After the First Dance -- Father of Bride. Mother of Groom.. After first dance, the Bride and her Father will dance together. After a few bars of music the Groom may invite his Mother to Dance. When the song finishes, the couples thanks each other and the Bride and Groom return to each other,

The Third Song -- Attendants. When the next song starts, the attendants (as they were paired in the wedding) begin dancing with each other. The parents of each attendant may also dance together. All this time, the Bride and Groom continue dancing together. The parents of the bride and groom may also continue dancing join in and dance with each other.

The Fourth Tune -- Guests. When the fourth song starts, the attendants and parents of the attendants may split up and start asking guests who are still sitting down to dance. It is a good idea for the attendants to thank their partners at the end of every dance and find someone new to dance with who is still sitting down. This approach will help to ensure that everyone has a good time and everyone is invited to dance]]> Tue, 23 Sep 2008 09:57:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/484611 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/484363 Tue, 23 Sep 2008 02:26:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/484363 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/480461
Article 1.
All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights.They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.

Article 2.
Everyone is entitled to all the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration, without distinction of any kind, such as race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national or social origin, property, birth or other status. Furthermore, no distinction shall be made on the basis of the political, jurisdictional or international status of the country or territory to which a person belongs, whether it be independent, trust, non-self-governing or under any other limitation of sovereignty.

Article 3.
Everyone has the right to life, liberty and security of person.

Article 4.
No one shall be held in slavery or servitude; slavery and the slave trade shall be prohibited in all their forms.

Article 5.
No one shall be subjected to torture or to cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment.

Article 6.
Everyone has the right to recognition everywhere as a person before the law.

Article 7.
All are equal before the law and are entitled without any discrimination to equal protection of the law. All are entitled to equal protection against any discrimination in violation of this Declaration and against any incitement to such discrimination.

Article 8.
Everyone has the right to an effective remedy by the competent national tribunals for acts violating the fundamental rights granted him by the constitution or by law.

Article 9.
No one shall be subjected to arbitrary arrest, detention or exile.

Article 10.
Everyone is entitled in full equality to a fair and public hearing by an independent and impartial tribunal, in the determination of his rights and obligations and of any criminal charge against him.

Article 11.
(1) Everyone charged with a penal offence has the right to be presumed innocent until proved guilty according to law in a public trial at which he has had all the guarantees necessary for his defence.

(2) No one shall be held guilty of any penal offence on account of any act or omission which did not constitute a penal offence, under national or international law, at the time when it was committed. Nor shall a heavier penalty be imposed than the one that was applicable at the time the penal offence was committed.

Article 12.
No one shall be subjected to arbitrary interference with his privacy, family, home or correspondence, nor to attacks upon his honour and reputation. Everyone has the right to the protection of the law against such interference or attacks.

Article 13.
(1) Everyone has the right to freedom of movement and residence within the borders of each state.

(2) Everyone has the right to leave any country, including his own, and to return to his country.

Article 14.
(1) Everyone has the right to seek and to enjoy in other countries asylum from persecution.

(2) This right may not be invoked in the case of prosecutions genuinely arising from non-political crimes or from acts contrary to the purposes and principles of the United Nations.

Article 15.
(1) Everyone has the right to a nationality.

(2) No one shall be arbitrarily deprived of his nationality nor denied the right to change his nationality.

Article 16.
(1) Men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family. They are entitled to equal rights as to marriage, during marriage and at its dissolution.

(2) Marriage shall be entered into only with the free and full consent of the intending spouses.

(3) The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the State.

Article 17.
(1) Everyone has the right to own property alone as well as in association with others.

(2) No one shall be arbitrarily deprived of his property.

Article 18.
Everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion; this right includes freedom to change his religion or belief, and freedom, either alone or in community with others and in public or private, to manifest his religion or belief in teaching, practice, worship and observance.

Article 19.
Everyone has the right to freedom of opinion and expression; this right includes freedom to hold opinions without interference and to seek, receive and impart information and ideas through any media and regardless of frontiers.

Article 20.
(1) Everyone has the right to freedom of peaceful assembly and association.

(2) No one may be compelled to belong to an association.

Article 21.
(1) Everyone has the right to take part in the government of his country, directly or through freely chosen representatives.

(2) Everyone has the right of equal access to public service in his country.

(3) The will of the people shall be the basis of the authority of government; this will shall be expressed in periodic and genuine elections which shall be by universal and equal suffrage and shall be held by secret vote or by equivalent free voting procedures.

Article 22.
Everyone, as a member of society, has the right to social security and is entitled to realization, through national effort and international co-operation and in accordance with the organization and resources of each State, of the economic, social and cultural rights indispensable for his dignity and the free development of his personality.

Article 23.
(1) Everyone has the right to work, to free choice of employment, to just and favourable conditions of work and to protection against unemployment.

(2) Everyone, without any discrimination, has the right to equal pay for equal work.

(3) Everyone who works has the right to just and favourable remuneration ensuring for himself and his family an existence worthy of human dignity, and supplemented, if necessary, by other means of social protection.

(4) Everyone has the right to form and to join trade unions for the protection of his interests.

Article 24.
Everyone has the right to rest and leisure, including reasonable limitation of working hours and periodic holidays with pay.

Article 25.
(1) Everyone has the right to a standard of living adequate for the health and well-being of himself and of his family, including food, clothing, housing and medical care and necessary social services, and the right to security in the event of unemployment, sickness, disability, widowhood, old age or other lack of livelihood in circumstances beyond his control.

(2) Motherhood and childhood are entitled to special care and assistance. All children, whether born in or out of wedlock, shall enjoy the same social protection.

Article 26.
(1) Everyone has the right to education. Education shall be free, at least in the elementary and fundamental stages. Elementary education shall be compulsory. Technical and professional education shall be made generally available and higher education shall be equally accessible to all on the basis of merit.

(2) Education shall be directed to the full development of the human personality and to the strengthening of respect for human rights and fundamental freedoms. It shall promote understanding, tolerance and friendship among all nations, racial or religious groups, and shall further the activities of the United Nations for the maintenance of peace.

(3) Parents have a prior right to choose the kind of education that shall be given to their children.

Article 27.
(1) Everyone has the right freely to participate in the cultural life of the community, to enjoy the arts and to share in scientific advancement and its benefits.

(2) Everyone has the right to the protection of the moral and material interests resulting from any scientific, literary or artistic production of which he is the author.

Article 28.
Everyone is entitled to a social and international order in which the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration can be fully realized.

Article 29.
(1) Everyone has duties to the community in which alone the free and full development of his personality is possible.

(2) In the exercise of his rights and freedoms, everyone shall be subject only to such limitations as are determined by law solely for the purpose of securing due recognition and respect for the rights and freedoms of others and of meeting the just requirements of morality, public order and the general welfare in a democratic society.

(3) These rights and freedoms may in no case be exercised contrary to the purposes and principles of the United Nations.

Article 30.
Nothing in this Declaration may be interpreted as implying for any State, group or person any right to engage in any activity or to perform any act aimed at the destruction of any of the rights and freedoms set forth herein.

]]> Thu, 18 Sep 2008 06:54:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/480461 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/480457 Thu, 18 Sep 2008 06:44:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/480457 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/435961 I think it is only just to analyse why men want to get married too after I have done a post why women got married.

1. To have a life-long partner
2. He has found his true love
3. It is the right time to get married
4. He is getting old
5. He has a big house and he is alone
6. He has kids from his ex-wife and has no one to help
7. He needs a free life-long domestic helper
8. He has too much money and time
9. He is sick of his previous wife or wives (In olden days, Chinese Emperors do this alot.)
10. Religiously, they can, just like the Arabs.
11. He needs someone to bear him kids.
12. His first wife is infertile (or more accurately, it is the men’s fault most of the time. So don’t always blame the women.)
13. He is still a big boy and needs a motherly-figure to look after him
14. He needs to be satisfied sexually
15. His parents force him to
16. He sees he is lagging behind his peers and want to catch up
17. He can’t cook and he needs a cook at home
18. His girl-friend’s mother hinted him to get married and she had even booked the wedding venue for them and informed all the relatives they are planning to get married this year! (So he can’t say no.)
19. The girl is very rich
20. Or the girl’s father is very rich
21. Or the girl’s father only does business with sons-in-law
22. He wants to take care of the girl for eternality and forever
23. The girl is dying and marrying him is her last wish :_( “Sob sob
24. He gets married so that his parents can shut up
25. He gets married because his parents say that she is a nice girl
26. He gets married because he made her preganant
27. He gets married because the girl’s father will kill him if he doesn’t
28. He gets married so that the girl can get citizenship (and they normally divorce later so that the girl with her family can move on and has a better life.)
29. He gets married to his childhood sweetheart
30. The girl sweared that she will haunt him for life if he doesn’t marry her (and he is scared! Very scared!)
31. He gets married because he has always want to start a family
32. He gets married because he wants to spend his life-time with her
33. He gets married so that he can take good care of her
34. He marrys her so that she can escape from her own home
35. He marrys her just simply he loves her alot
36. And she loves him too
37. They get married because they are destined to. (It is fate at work! Or you can call it God’s work!)

]]> Tue, 22 Jul 2008 12:33:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/435961 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/416405
On my birthday
i stretch for a sunbeam...
Reaching for a star...
Going for a beautiful dream.

Picking out some wishes,
no matter how far,
or how hard to reach
they may seem.

Cherishing some hopes
that are dear to my heart.

And as a new year comes in view,
i treasure and keep them
and know from the start
that this year
i can make them come true!

Celebrate this day with me,
and embrace all the reasons
to believe in wishes again.

Each birthday wish i recieve
Really does come true.
Each year I wish
I'll grow some more
And every year
I DO! -
]]> Wed, 09 Jul 2008 03:58:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/416405 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/389951 RE: AFRICAN CHILD DAY.
It is not a day known to most folks, save for those working at the fore front of child welfare, but it’s the day of the African child on June 16th. The Day of the African Child has been celebrated on 16 June every year since 1991, when it was first initiated by the Organization of African Unity.
This day is a commemoration of hundreds of young boys and girls who were killed in Soweto, South Africa, when thousands of black school children took to the streets in 1976, in a march to protest the inferior quality of their education and to demand their right to be taught in their own language. Children were short down when they matched more than half a mile long, and in the two weeks of protest that followed, more than a hundred people were killed and more than a thousand were injured. This day is also a commemoration of the courage of all those who marched.
In Uganda and many parts of Africa, it will be a day like any other. Very few children rights organisations organize minor cerebrations in consideration with the funds at hand or will probably put up a notice or send out e- fliers to staff as a reminder of what is happening elsewhere, despite there being a good proportion of African children with in this massively diverse city.
You would have thought that in Kampala, things would be different, but going by the past, it might be another missed opportunity for our children. You would think that both the authorities and the public would use the day to mark a new beginning for the children. A new start where everyone would reflect on their attitude, their perception of what our children are worth and those working directing with the children, an opportunity to evaluate and possibly rethink their practice. You would have thought that these children’s lives would be celebrated by a top class befitting occasion since Uganda is re-known for its all sorts of symbolic days but alas this will be another cause of regret.
In the past, what we have seen has not only been the failure to honour the day, but also the lack of publicity about its existence. We are a nation that needs no legislation for any day of the year to be declared a national occasion. We have seen the chogms day precede our fundamental national programmes including the reorganization of our national exams for the sake of a two days meeting in Kampala hundreds of miles away from Kanungu sec school where an s4 chap was due to sit his olevels. That is after having struggled valiantly to make it up to year 4. We ‘ve seen the days when our military might is flaunted to the opposition, the freedom fighters day, the women’s day, and all sorts of occasions. It’s time therefore we let this day of the child touch all our emotions and give it the respect it deserves.
The day of the child could be marked by doing very little things that matter to the children which we the grownups take for granted. Things like a little more respect to every child on the day, a bit more safety, reassurance and security, sleeping in dormitories with their matron a long side, a day’s leave from the front line for child soldiers and a break from unpaid hard labour, food for those on streets, leave from the rapists, access to a day’s free medical treatment, and a break from abusive carers. The list is endless. It’s things that do not cost us a thing but which we find too hard to sacrifice. And that is a pity.
It’s the acts that need no more than a revaluation of our conscience. It’s things that will not be of huge financial cost to the government at least not what we would need to parade out katushas and buying the katushas (weaponry) on the one of many events. It is my humble argument here that we do not need the government to do our jobs respectfully and accountably, nor do we need any government mechanism for you and I to rethink our conscience and be more passionate and humane.
If you a surveyor, you do require the government machinery (flogging) to construct safe buildings for our children (read collapsing schools). The picture is so grim for our children, and the injustice they suffer is insurmountable. I will not want to dare anyone but if you would agree a 30 minute challenge walk across Kampala alone, you would see hundreds of children with their bellies out (naked), children selling bags to survive, others scavenging in the rubbish bins, children medicating themselves because they cannot afford to see a doctor and in the country side the scenes would include children who cannot study because they are hungry. Its the evils that we have all caused. Any one would become infuriated and wish they could transform our children’s lives in an instant.
So who is the problem? The problem is every one of us. The problem is that individual, that community and those institutions that preside over failing systems. Its starts at an individual level, where a pharmacist sells expired drugs to main children, or that heartless rapist whose motive we can never understand. The person who fails to execute his role accountably, the teacher who fails to show up for lessons after a drunken night and then that carer who thinks that his 7 year old son is old enough to fend for himself.
At a community level, it is the way we value our children. ‘Our children who are supposed to be heard and not seen’, those parents who do not want to earn living and choose to force their prepubescent daughters to marry so they can get bride price. We forget that our children are gifts, our angels from God, and are our foundation and future nations.
At an institutional level it includes you the gender minister who has not implemented a single section of the 1996 children statute to-date. The money was spent and a copycat of the UK children Act 1989 was Xeroxed nearly page by page to enact the 1996 statute. Why is it not fully implemented any way? Is it because children do not count politically? Because they are not a force, because they do not vote, or because they can not hold the government at ransom, and they can not threaten the centre? Why do children’s needs always score less on the government agenda? The reality of living conditions of millions of children makes an ugly reading.
Let us start a new campaign. On the day when we remember the little souls that perished in cold blood 32 years ago, let everyone do something that will put a smile of their faces where ever they are. We can do this by doing something to change the lives of the living. Let us forget all those declarations (UN something, EU something, African something including the famous OAU declaration ‘Africa fit for children’) that have not meant anything to lives of the ordinary child. Let us be human. Lets us do the acts that are within our limits but can put a smile to a child under your care or a child next door. Let us give great importance to the day of the African child.
I salute all the persons and organisations and individuals that are doing their best to give a better face to an African child.
You and I have a role to play for an African child. May God bless you.

]]> Mon, 16 Jun 2008 05:52:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/389951 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/369083
Moms can be of many different types: sugary sweet, disciplinarian, short-tempered, patient, determined or even very passionate. But whatever be the predominant qualities ruling her heart she would always be the mother to her child and will continue to love and protect her child with all her heart and soul. Her maternal instincts dominate and surpass all other qualities she possesses.

Depending on the nature of your mom you can plan and choose gift for her that will suit her best. On Mother's Day plan a celebration that will be really approved by your mother. You can categorize your mothers in the following four distinct categories:
Artisan Mother
Idealist Mother
Rational Mothers
Guardian Mothers ]]> Sat, 10 May 2008 07:49:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/369083 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/369079 Sat, 10 May 2008 07:10:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/369079 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/341691 Started as a political event, the holiday blended in the culture of many countries (primarily Russia and the countries of former Soviet bloc).
In some celebrations, the day lost its political flavour, and became simply an occasion for men to express their love to the women around them in a way somewhat similar to Mother's Day and St Valentine's Day mixed together
in Some Countries it is observed by men giving the women in their lives - mothers, wives, girlfriends, colleagues, etc., flowers and small gifts, While in other countries it is also observed as an equivalent of Mother's Day, where children also give small presents to their mothers and grandmothers.
In Africa Wats the Next Step? What do we see in IWD?]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 10:52:00 EST http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/341691 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/323069 whats the new vogue?
Whats the new catch?
Whats the new dream?
whats the new plan for the year?
whats the new job in line?
am sure a number of things are coming up for the year.
Well i think its better to be SMART in making up the plans and dreams to be achieved in the year 2008.
do hurry pliz no one is chassing u, save for time itself, take time to make up what suits u best and do it fast, have January to plan it up
nice time happy newyear]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2008 06:20:00 EST http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/323069 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/323067 learning alot of what comprises of Uganda as a whole, Ever been to Camps? or rather once a Camp area? Brothers and sisters Thank God for the Peace in the parts of the Country u hail from,
HIV Prevalence rates are high in the Fishing Villages above Lake Kyoga, thats Dokolo and Kaberamiado Districts, to a rate of 65% of 295 tested on one specific day in December 2007.
its a new year whats the way forward?]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2008 06:13:00 EST http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/323067 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/294589 Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:52:00 EST http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/294589 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/270969 However, enormous challenges still lie ahead. At Independence Uganda had no model of a transparent, accountable government upon which to build the foundations of a new democratic state. The British colonial regime was, by definition, unaccountable to the Uganda people and its colonial business was not conducted according to the democratic norms of openness, transparency and accountability. Repressive colonial policies also heightened social and ethnic tensions within the country thereby helping to lay the foundation for much of the conflict that would define Ugandan politics over the next three decades after independence.
]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 05:09:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/270969 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/264215 whats our way foward this Independence celebration?
Rodney]]> Mon, 08 Oct 2007 04:44:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/264215 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/251435 To mi Tuesdays are ma best day, i get blest in all, right from Bed, whats yr view? lets not think that the day u were born is the best day, coz i was born on a Friday, but believe mi Tuesdays are good.
lets thread something whats your view?]]> Thu, 20 Sep 2007 02:09:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/251435 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/248215 Go Cranes, Go Cranes oyeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]]> Tue, 11 Sep 2007 03:33:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/248215 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/229087 The years i have chewed have numbered and alot of changes are happening, Twenty years ago life was different, what a world, ten years ago, life was challenging, Now the moments of truth in reality have come, Focusing on what is next, what should be done and what is purposefull.
Thanx to u all, may the best of all be Granted.
Attra
Share ma Joy.....................]]> Mon, 09 Jul 2007 01:26:00 EDT http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/229087 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/163537 Mon, 26 Feb 2007 08:43:00 EST http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/163537 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/162503 Most people agree that the ability to effectively communicate with others can have a huge impact on interpersonal relationships. Learning how to say what you mean in a way that others will understand can eliminate many stresses on relationships. Take a look at our favorite tips for general communication, communicating in disagreements, and communicating about sex.

In General Communication
1.Be Aware of Non-Verbal Signals. Our body language-facial expressions, posture, eye contact all change the meaning given to our words. Our voice expressions-tone, volume, rhythm all show the feeling in our words. Work to match your non-verbal communication with what you are saying so that your message carries the meaning what you want.
2. Listen. Indicate that you are paying attention by nodding your head or using brief statements. Do not interrupt when you are listening. Let the speaker finish speaking before you jump in. Keep an open mind and be non-judgmental.
3. Paraphrase and Ask Questions. Repeat back what you think you've heard someone say and use summary statements. Ask questions to clarify statements. These techniques help you to avoid misunderstandings.

In an Argument or Disagreement

1. Delay Your Reactions. Don't jump to conclusions. Give yourself time to process what was said and understand the speaker's feelings before you respond. Wait until you have all the information before you make inaccurate assumptions.

2. Don't Make Generalizations. Be specific and direct. Concentrate on this particular personal issue. Do not change the subject-stick to the issue until it is resolved.
Use "I" Statements. "I" statements help to express your own feelings, attitudes and desires. Using these types of messages will avoid putting the other person on the defensive. Saying things like "I am feeling unhappy…" allows you to express your feelings without criticizing the other person.

About Sex

1. Discuss Abstinence, Sex, and Safer Sex. You have the right to decide whether or not you want to have sex, and you should discuss this decision either way. If you decide not to have sex, talk about this with your partner. If the other person do not respect your decision, then he/she is not respecting you. If you decide you might want to have sex, plan a time to talk about what you want before you are intimately involved. Be honest about your sexual history and your sexual health. Discuss and make mutual decisions on your safer sex options. Go together to get tested for sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

2. Seek Clarification. If you are getting mixed messages about what another person wants, especially if it is during sex, ask about these messages. It can be sexy to ask someone what she/he wants—be specific. If someone isn't sure whether they want to do something or not, assume the answer is no and stop. It is okay to wait until you are sure.

3. "NO" Can Be Said Many Ways. "No" never means "maybe" or "yes." Silence is not consent—if your partner is not responding, stop and ask whether what you are doing is okay. To give consent, a person must be physically and mentally capable of making the decision—if a person is unconscious, intoxicated, or under the influence of drugs, she/he cannot give consent. ]]> Mon, 19 Feb 2007 02:33:00 EST http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/162503 http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/162501 Are you going out with someone who…
Is jealous or possessive toward you? Won't let you have friends? Checks up on you? Won't accept breaking up? Tries to control you by being bossy? Giving orders? Making all the decisions? Doesn't take you seriously?

Is scary? You worry about how s/he will react to things you say or do? Threatens you? Uses or owns weapons?
Is violent—has a history of fighting? Loses temper easy? Brags about mistreating others?
Pressures you for sex? Is forceful or scary around sex? Thinks of you as a sex object? Tries to guilt trip you by saying "If you really loved me you would…"? Gets too serious about the relationship too fast?
Abuses drugs or alcohol and pressures you to take them?
Blames you for the mistreatment they might say that you provoked him/her, pushed his/her buttons, made him/her do it, led him/her on?
Has a history of bad relationships and always blames other people for their problems?
Believes that in a relationship one person should be in control and have all the power and the other person should be submissive?
Your friends and family have warned you about the person or told you they are worried about your safety?
If this sounds familiar… get help!]]> Mon, 19 Feb 2007 02:32:00 EST http://qax47.tigblog.org/post/162501